a person who is advised, trained, or counseled by a mentor.
Hey loves! This post is inspired by a bar association event I attended last week. Don’t know what a bar association is? Don’t worry, I’ll write a post about it soon! Anywho, from my own experiences and from what I gathered at the event, I’ve come up with a list of the attributes of a great mentee:
They Take Initiative
Some mentees only see the mentor as having an active role. They expect their mentor to reach out to them and just start flooding them with advice and the tools they need to succeed. However, taking a passive role in the mentor-mentee relationship is not a good idea. Some mentors are busy and won’t reach out to you. You have to take the initiative and reach out to your mentor, set up a coffee meeting or a quick phone call. Always follow up with them when you say you will. If they didn’t get back to you when they say they would, it’s okay to remind them. They are probably just busy and it slipped their mind, and they will most likely appreciate the reminder. Either way, you are the architect of your destiny, so don’t take the opportunity for granted.
They Are Upfront
If there is a very specific question you have, just ask it. If you want them to look over your resume or cover letter, ask them. If you think they may have a contact at a company you are interested in, just ask them! If they are willing to be your mentor, then these are the things they signed up to help you with. Closed mouths don’t get fed, boo. You have to speak up and ask for what you want.
They Are Consistent
Consistency is key. I want people to say, “I know I can always count on Ashley to do x,y, and z.” You want to be known for always being reliable and on point. This is very important when it comes to making sure that you always follow up and are punctual with all deadlines and meetings that you may have lined up with your mentor. This speaks to your brand and communicates that you are serious about what you want in life. To learn more about the importance of maintaining your personal brand, check out my blog post, here.
They Keep You Updated
One new thing I learned at the event last week is that you should always make it a point to notify your mentors of your triumphs! Sometimes we may avoid sharing our accomplishments because we don’t want to come off as boastful or arrogant (this is definitely me sometimes). However, your mentors want to know that the energy and time they are putting into mentoring you is paying off for you and them. That’s why it is important to send them a short, appreciative message when you get a new job, graduate, pass the bar, or whatever it may be. They are proud of you and want to celebrate your accomplishments with you just like everyone else. ❤
They Are Open To Constructive Criticism
I know most people don’t like to hear that they aren’t as great as they thought and have room for improvement. Some people hate it so much that they completely ignore it and reject it as negative. This is never a good idea. When someone is providing you with constructive criticism, most of the time it is only because they are trying to help you be your best self. It also does no good to be all up in your feelings when people provide you with criticism because they want to know that you will be able to handle it. So get as much feedback from people you trust now so you are well equipped with knowledge regarding your strengths and weaknesses once you enter into your career or big endeavor.
I’m sure there are many other attributes of a great mentee that I didn’t mention. Can you think of any? Please share them in the comments below!